Feeding Relationships

by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher

What’s the secret to a good relationship? In reality there isn’t one. Instead, there are countless things that contribute to a relationship being successful or not. And, in order to be happy, you need to make sure that you are taking care of the little things that, over time, can have a major impact.

One thing that often gets overlooked when it comes to relationships is the importance of the small details and gestures that add up and greatly influence your relationship. These details and gestures nourish the bond between couples. It’s the principle of feeding and starving. What you feed thrives and what you starve eventually dies.

Think about the last time you felt warm with love for your partner. In all likelihood, it will have been something very small that triggered it. Maybe you received a loving text. Maybe they brought you some soup when you were feeling sick. Or, maybe they said something nice about you in front of other people.

These small gestures can often add up to be the difference between a happy relationship and one that is struggling. This is the important principle of feeding your relationship with small, yet consistent, actions or gestures. When you apply them to your relationship, amazing things can happen.

Here are just a few small actions you can start taking that will help you to feed your relationship…

Make the bed in the morning – So that when you go to bed at night it will be warm and cozy and ready for you!
Send an occasional thoughtful text – Show each other you’re thinking of them by sending texts occasionally that say ‘I miss you’. There doesn’t have to be a reason.
Buy impromptu gifts – Just like the random text can go a long way, so too can the impromptu gift once in a while.
Give a hug in the morning – Hugs do a great deal of good and they also happen to be the perfect way to start any day.
Plan a date night – Having a date night whether it’s once a week or once a fortnight will give you something to look forward to and a chance to do something nice as just the two of you.
Be spontaneous with affection – The occasional spontaneous intimate surprise is a great way to feel closer.
Hold hands – Another easy one that builds closeness and has statistically been shown to be a great sign for relationships.
Say something – Words are powerful, especially loving ones, kind ones, thankful ones, complimentary ones, supportive ones, and the like.

Relationships are a living bond between two people and they need the same attention sustaining them as was given getting into them. An awesome theme to keep in mind is to give more than you take. The more deposits you make into the relationship, the more you are making sure that there is something to withdraw when you need it. Most people are trying to write theoretical checks that their relationship just can’t cash.

Again, relationship deposits can come in many forms. Things like compliments, date nights, gifts, affection, vacations, and more will help stoke the fire of fondness. Deposits don’t have to be hard or even expensive. They just need to be frequent and genuine.

You have to know that, if you’re the recipient of a loving deposit, you will be inspired to reciprocate. It’s not that you’re depositing to get something in return, but most likely you will. If your partner sees you making an investment in the relationship, they will certainly be motivated to try harder themselves.

Remember, relationships you feed thrive and relationships you starve eventually die.