Embracing Your Flaws And All
by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher
Flaws are really not a bad thing. In fact, imperfections can be a good thing. They can cause growth and they can cause laughter. They can be beautiful and they can empower self-confidence. That’s not too shabby for something that the majority of the world either tries to change or avoid.
Take a look around you. We live in an imperfect world. There are flaws everywhere. The world is full of cracks, dents, and lots of things that didn’t work out as planned.
There is no such thing as perfect. It’s unattainable. At best, it’s an ideal. At worst, it’s a cruel lie. Perfection doesn’t exist, but imperfection is very tangible. We’re all human. Therefore, none of us are perfect. Being human is messy on a daily basis. It’s about making mistakes and, hopefully, learning from those mistakes.
Chasing perfection is a frustrating and divisive process. It causes us to notice the differences between people and things. We start to categorize them. We pre-judge or even de-value them differently based our perception of them.
In reality, we’re all basically the same. We all have the same ability to make mistakes and falter. It seems like the flaws in us should actually help us relate to one other, doesn’t it? Our shared imperfections and our humanity are what make us all alike, for Heaven’s sake.
Your imperfections and those of others shouldn’t be a prerequisite for happiness either. Happiness doesn’t depend upon perfection. Real happiness comes from being willing to accept your imperfections and also those of others. It’s not something you feel like doing. It’s a choice you make. It’s a freeing and life-giving decision.
Think about this, as I’ve already pointed out, we live in an extremely imperfect world. In fact, in nature things are rarely symmetrical. There are very few straight lines or right angles. Nature itself is more concerned with function than it is with form.
So, if beauty is perfection and nothing in the world is perfect, does that mean that nothing in the world is beautiful? Obviously, it doesn’t. The world is beautiful despite its imperfections and so are you.
While each of us have our own collection of scars, scratches, and mismatched parts; we shouldn’t view ourselves malfunctioning rejects. Our flaws shouldn’t be looked upon at as a collection of awful weaknesses that rob our confidence.
Our confidence is built upon how we see ourselves and our lack of confidence usually occurs because of a negative self-image. We all have a mental picture of ourselves that we carry around. If we’re feeling less than adequate, the mental picture we have of ourselves is less than adequate too. It doesn’t matter if that’s not the way other people see us. It’s what we believe that counts.
Listen to your inner conversation. That voice inside your head is often very negative. The words that come out of your mouth flow from thoughts that are influenced by that inner voice. The words that come out of your mouth are also being heard by you. Your inner voice influences your outer voice and your outer voice influences your inner voice. It’s an ongoing and never-ending cycle.
Therefore, make it a habit of telling yourself that it’s okay to have flaws. Everybody has flaws. Tell yourself that you are worth just as much as anybody else – even with your darn flaws. Tell yourself that you are making a decision today to own your humanity and to accept your flaws as being… normal.
Acknowledging and embracing imperfection is simply accepting reality. Perfection is largely a fictional and unattainable ideal. You should know that embracing your imperfections is a lifelong process, but one that will allow for unlimited growth inside of you as well as an increased acceptance of others.
By adjusting your negative expectations, you can truly free yourself of the misery and tyranny of perfectionism.
It’s time to love yourself and everyone else – flaws and all!