7 Relationship Boosters
by Daryl Daughtry, Publisher
Here are 7 marriage and relationship boosters…
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We can all agree that relationships (especially marriages) are very fragile things and they require lots of attention. It’s just common sense to recognize that what you feed grows and what you neglect doesn’t. So, if you’re neglecting your relationship by not being attentive and present, it’s no wonder your relationship or marriage has lost it’s sizzle.
On the other hand, people who do more giving than they do taking usually have healthy and happy relationships. People who make more deposits into their relationships than they do withdrawals don’t ever feel like things are running on empty.
So, I want to share 7 marriage and relationship boosters that will truly make a difference:
Tip 1 – FOCUS on what’s “right” with your relationship more than on what’s “wrong” with it. Figure out what’s working and why. You should soon discover that there’s more right things happening than there are problems. Appreciate those right things and let them motivate you make the effort to correct other things.
Tip 2 – CAST a vision together to get on the same page concerning the mission and meaning of your union. Most people don’t have a strong vision for their individual life, much less their relationship. Give your bond a mission. Work together towards some shared outcome that you both can be proud of and an outcome that can give you a shared purpose. Relationships with a shared vision are much closer than most others.
Tip 3 – DEPOSIT compliments, hugs, gifts, date nights, time, intimacy, etc. into your “love account”. If you’re always neglecting these gestures or only making withdrawals, no wonder the thrill is gone. Your relationship is anemic and in desperate need of oxygen. Breathe some life back into your relationship or marriage by making some regular deposits on a daily basis. Those small gestures over time will truly add up and make a big impact on the quality of your life together.
Tip 4 – PREFER your mate over other people and things. Show them the honor and respect they deserve to make them feel safe and loved. Make them your priority and they will make you theirs. It’s funny how that works, isn’t it?
Tip 5 – MOVE with action steps together on some mutual project or goal. Movement can lead to that amazing thing called momentum. It’s like Dr. Isaac Newton’s revelation that an object that is in motion tends to stay in motion and a stationary object just stays put. Nothing new happens until or unless some form of action is taken. So, get moving!
Tip 6 – EXPRESS your reasonable wants and needs so your partner will be aware of them and be more intentional in those areas. There is a saying that goes, “You can’t expect what you don’t express.” It would kinda be like going to a restaurant, sitting down, not placing an order, and expecting the waiter or waitress to bring what you’re wanting. Can you say,”Not gonna happen!”
Tip 7 – LISTEN to your partner’s desires to be aware and to see where you can adjust to help. When the shoe’s on the other foot, you should encourage your loved one to express to you exactly what they want and need. We can’t aim to please if we don’t where to aim. Can we?
These 7 marriage and relationship boosters come from my many years of training professional marriage and relationship coaches around the world.